We are hurt and say this,
“I feel as though I do all the work in this friendship. I’m always the one asking to hangout, go places, or even just talk. I wish this person would hit me up sometime.”and the truth is, we keep doing it, keep asking this person we call friend to hangout because if we didn’t, in truth we know we probably wouldn’t hear from them anymore. They’d disappear. That seems to be the truth of the matter.
I’ve seen this truth plenty of times. Today I had someone I barely met two days ago tell me “Let’s hangout next week!” and that kind of hurt. I mean, it was awesome that someone I barely knew was taking interest in me, but it kind of sucked because it reminded me of all the people I care about that haven’t said that in months or ever.
Let’s get this out of the way. I understand people are busy. We have jobs, school, kids, family, girlfriends and boyfriends, hobbies, etc. I agree these things can be time consuming. Yet I’m not sure if that’s a real excuse for a disappearing act. What I mean is, we have phones, facebook, twitter, instagram, tumblr, aim, and more to interact with each other. So maybe making physical time is difficult, but it’s not impossible to shoot something as simple as a text. Show the people you care about that they’re still alive. That they matter. We get so caught up in our lives that we forget people we claim to love. Then we try and defend being a shitty friend with crappy excuses. Then we try and make people out as someone that is just making a big deal. Fuck off, idiot. Yeah, please. Before you open your mouth and judge someone for caring about their relationships, try and be a little empathetic, you asshat. For some people, that’s all they have when it comes to relationships, with connections. If you’re downing someone for caring, congrats to you, you’re not only an ignorant fuck but you’re probably a shitty friend as well. Whatever. I don’t even know why I’m talking anymore.
In truth, everyone seems to go. I always am the one to remain. I’m trying to be okay with that.